Teaching kids to be independent

What can we do to teach kids to be more independent and responsible for the choices they make?

We have had a quite a few kids ineligible since the quarter ended and they are always so quick to blame the teachers who "gave" them the Fs.

I tell kids about a vocabulary quiz coming up, write it on the board, put it on my website, remind them daily, and the day the quiz comes and they bomb it they are so quick to turn the blame around to someone or something else. "I had a game last night." "I didn't know there was a quiz today." "I didn't know what was going to be on the quiz."

I give kids an assignment (that should be very self explanatory if they would just read the directions) and so many kids come to class the next day with it not complete and say, "I didn't know how to do it so I didn't do it." And my response always is, "Did you stop by my room afterschool, during lunch or before school this morning to ask for help? Did you find a classmate and ask them?" There response always is a blank stare.

I give kids an in class assignment for them to work on independently while I circulate the room and kids stop me to tell me they don't get it. So I always ask them "What part don't you get?" And they just repeat "I just don't get it." So I say, "well, think aobut it and call me over when you figure out what part you need help on."

Or a student asks me a specific question. So instead of just giving them the answer, I usually respond with a question to get them thinking about it and continue with follow up questions to guide them to the answer. And too often they refuse to think about it and refuse to answer my questions. They tell me "it's your job to tell me the answer." Too many kids just aren't willing to try things on their own and need to be spoon fed.

I want to get kids to think independently. I want them to try things on their own first and then if they still don't get it, to be able to think through it well enough to ask good questions. I want kids to take responsibility for their own learning and realize that their successes and failures are directly because of what they put into it. I want kids to learn to keep track of deadlines and manage their workload effectively. These are all skills they so desperately will need when they leave our four walls.

How can we teach them these skills?

How can they care so little???

So today in one of my classes a major project (worth 100 points) was due along with a review worksheet. Both were given to students over a week ago with frequent reminders and time in class on a couple of occasions. So this morning I go around to collect them from my students. In one hour 3 students had completed the project and only 5 had done the worksheet out of 11 students! And what got me most was the absolute lack of care. Not a single student showed any disappointment or regret that they had forgot to do it or anything. They just sat there as if this were the most normal and perfect thing in the world.

And then when we started doing some review activities, they were failing miserably because they didn't recognize any of the vocabulary. It's only vocabulary that we have been working on for 3 weeks and have been tested on several times.

My original plan was to go over the review sheet as a class the latter part of the hour and then answer any questions before tomorrows chapter test. But since so few had even completed the review sheet I was not about to just give the answers to the rest so I met with the 5 who had completed it and we went over it together. What did the remaining students do? They sat and gabbed.

Will I feel sorry for them when they fail the test miserably tomorrow? No way! I have done everything I can to help them succeed and they have done very little, for some of them absolutely nothing. It's just too bad that the quarter ends this week so there will be no chance to pull their grade up after this and the zero they earned for not completing their project.

A student who was gone

Today a student comes into class who was gone yesterday. He sits down and copies the notes from his table partner (kudos to him for at least starting to figure out what he missed). I ask the class to get out the sheet we worked on yesterday and students write the answers on the board so we can go over them. At some point I realize that this kid had been gone yesterday and has yet to ask for this sheet that we are working on. By now, probably close to 10 minutes has passed in class. I then ask the students to complete the next part individually which we then go over on the board. We spent probably about 25 minutes on this worksheet and this kid never once asked me for the sheet nor did he go back to the basket where I keep extra handouts to get one. He just sat there.

And then later today I was looking at my gradebook. I have 4 students who have never passed ANY of the competency tests this year. That means they have a zero for 20% of their grade right now. These are tests that I let them take as many times as they need to as long as they get the required grade on them. They are essentially free points if you take the time to work with me and get them done. I have NEVER had a student who was trying fail one of these tests!

Many of these kids are the same ones that are all mad at me because they get a zero on them if they don't ever earn that required grade. If I had just taken the score they got on it and entered it in the gradebook, yes their grade would be higher. But they would still be failing because they wouldn't know the material any better and so they would still be getting 30% on the chapter tests (yes, all 4 of the ones who have never passed any competency tests got right around a 30%) on the chapter test. And so those kids would still be failing (along with tons of others who were happy with the first score they got on those competency tests regardless of whether they knew the material)!!!!

Responsibility

One of my biggest struggles is helping students understand their responsibility in learning. Too many of them show up in my class expecting me to just hand them everything on a silver platter and that they won't have to do anything. And then when they do poorly the first person blamed is the teacher.

At some point in the year I like to sit down with my classes and talk about their responsibility as a student and mine as a teacher but it doesn't always help like it really hasn't this year with one of my classes. Even when I'm soliciting the information from students, they still see it as coming from an adult. And of course we all know that adults know nothing, right??!!

I guess I'm just at a loss as to how to approach this problem. I hate to see my students not doing well. But there is only so much I can do if they aren't pulling their weight.